【大天使加百利】健康的界线

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2022年4月19日

Your boundaries can be malleable without making you weak, inconsistent, or vulnerable if you are making them in a per case basis with the criteria that your connection point is a place that is safe and empowering for everyone involved.
你的界线可以改变成不让你变得软弱、不一致或脆弱，如果你是按照具体情况制订的它们，伴随着“你的连接点是一个安全的地方、会瘦全每个涉及之人”的标准
There may be some people in your life who are not safe for you to be in close proximity with. Those people will need to be kept at a distance. In fact, in those cases, you may choose to have a boundary of no contact at all. This is perfectly appropriate if their behaviour is abusive or causes you distress. It is never empowering to support another in showing up in a lesser version of themselves, either, so no contact can be the highest choice for everyone involved.
也许你生活中的一些人不够安全让你去靠近。那些人需要保持距离。事实上，在这样的情况中，你可以选择根本不去接触的界线。这是完全恰当的，如果他们的行为是虐待性的或导致你痛苦。支持另一个人展现较低版本的自我从未是授权的，所以不接触可以是对每个涉及之人最高的选择
There are other souls who are so safe and supportive for you they deserve VIP access. These are the people who you can completely and open-heartedly be yourself with, who you enjoy a beautiful flow of love and support with. The relationship is mutually trustworthy, beneficial, and uplifting. These people are your soul companions, who bring you joy, and add to your life just as you add to theirs.
还有着别的灵魂是安全的，支持你的，他们值得VIP访问。这些人你可以完全敞开心相处，你会与之享受一个美丽的爱与支持的流动。你们的关系是值得信赖的、有益的、提升的。这些人是你的灵魂同伴，会带给你喜悦，会给你的生活添加风采
Based on the two examples we have given, can you see how attempting to have a preset one size fits all middle ground boundary system would not serve you in either instance? In the first case it would leave you vulnerable, in the second it would make you miss out on the joy of deep and respectful connection.
根据上面两个例子，你能看到试图设置一个“一刀切”的界线在两个情况中都不服务你吗？在第一个情况，会让你变得脆弱，在第二个情况，会让你错过深度互相尊重的连接喜悦
You are ready. You are ready to use your wisdom to find the connection points with others that allow you to meet people where they are and sets the stage for the most satisfying interactions that serve everyone involved. And that, Dear Ones, is exactly what boundaries are designed to do. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
你已经准备好了。你已经准备好使用你的智慧找到与他人的连接点，让你在另一个人的所在之地遇见他，为最令人满意的交互设置舞台，会服务每个涉及的人。这，亲爱的，就是界线被设计来做的。

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2022年4月20日

As we continue our series on boundaries this week, we would like to offer you an analogy that should make it very easy to understand the varying connection points of boundaries.
随着我们继续本周的界线系列，我们想要提供你一个类比来让你更好地理解各种界线点
Imagine, if you will, attending a dance. If your beloved is there and a slow song comes on, you will lovingly take to the middle of the dance floor to sway together in a close and intimate embrace. You may also share the dance floor with others in faster, less intimate dances that still allow you to share an enjoyable experience with another while maintaining more distance between you. And there may be others who you decide you don’t wish to dance with at all.
想象，你参加一个舞会。如果你心爱的人在那，一首慢歌响起，你会很乐意和他/她一起来到舞池中央在亲密的拥抱中摇摆。你也会在轻快的、不那么亲密的舞步中与他人分享舞池，这依旧会让你与另一个人拥有一个令人愉悦的体验，同时保持你们之间的距离。还有一些人你也许并不希望与之共舞
You automatically respond with whatever is an appropriate level of closeness with your dance partners. But regardless of how close or separate you choose to be with others during the dance, you still care about the well-being of every person who is attending the dance, whether you danced with them or not. You weighed all your options and wisely made your choices based on your comfort and desires while honouring the right of every single soul to be in the dance hall.
你做出与你舞伴恰当亲密程度的回应。但不管在跳舞期间你选择与另一个人保持多亲密或多少距离，你依旧关心每个参加舞会之人的福祉，无论你与他们共舞与否。你权衡你所有的选项，明智地做出你的选择，基于你的舒适和渴望，同时荣耀每个处于舞池中的灵魂的权力
Do you see? Having boundaries while being part of the whole is a skill you already have. At a dance you make your choices based on how you feel and how much closeness is appropriate in a per case basis, and you can use that template in your day to day life, as well. You get to choose whose name you put on your dance card and what kind of dance you would like to do with them. It does not need to be any more complicated than that. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
你明白了吗？拥有界线，同时成为整体的一部分是一个你已经拥有的能力。在一场舞会，你基于你的感受以及多亲密是恰当的来做出你的选择，你也可以在日常生活中使用这个模版。你可以选择邀请谁共舞，你喜欢的舞蹈类型。不需要比这更复杂。

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2022年4月21日

We realize that adjusting boundaries can seem daunting, especially if they’ve been in an unhealthy pattern for a long time. But healthy boundaries are essential for helping you, and everyone around you, meet their highest potentials. That is exactly why they are coming up for reexamination for so many of you.
我们意识到调整界线可以看似令人怯步，尤其当他们处于一个不健康的模式很久了。但健康的界线会帮助你和你周围的人遇见自己最高的潜能。所以它们在浮现被重新审视
We wish for you to know that shifting your boundaries isn’t mean when you are doing it from a conscious place, although people may accuse you of being mean or unfair as you do so. That is simply because they may be fearing change, or because they are invested in things staying the same. Shifting boundaries isn’t about punishment, it is about seeking an overall balance that is fair.
我们希望你明白，转变你的界线并不意味着当你从有意识的境地去做，别人可能会指责你刻薄或不公。这只是因为他们可能害怕改变或因为他们想要事物保持不变。转变界线不是关于惩罚，而是关于寻求一个整体的平衡
Most people who resist healthy boundaries are trying to avoid stepping into their own authentic power in some way. This is detrimental as that is exactly what you are on the planet to do! You may have noticed that when you have unhealthy boundaries with another there is a lot of blaming each other involved. When you are consumed with what another is doing, you are not putting your focus on your own growth and evolution.
大多数抗拒健康界线的人在试图避免进入自己真实的力量。这是有害的，因为那是你来到地球要做的！你可能注意到了，当你拥有不健康的界线，会有很多对彼此的指责。当你被另一个人的所作所为折磨，你没有把你的专注放到自己的成长和进化上
In some cases, you may need to make a big shift in your relationship to stop old patterning. If you have been in a dance of unhealthy boundaries with another for a long time, you may fear this will end your relationship but the reality is your relationship, if it is wildly out of balance, is doomed to fail. Moving into healthier boundaries is exactly what will give your relationship a chance.
在一些情况中，你可能需要在人际关系中做出巨大的改变来停止旧的模式。如果你处于不健康的界线很久，你可能会担心这会完结你的人际关系，但事实上是如果你的人际关系失控地失衡，它注定会失败。进入更加健康的界线才会给予你的人际关系一线生机
In other cases, you may slowly start shifting things in a way that won’t feel as drastic to others. This can start by you simply feeling into your truth before you answer or act. Ask yourself, is this fair and empowering for everyone involved? You can start saying no to others (or yes to yourself!), or start delegating activities to others that they can easily do for themselves, slowly but surely, to start to enact more gradual change. This requires commitment on your part to stay consciously aware and not fall back into old patterns.
在其它情况中，你可能慢慢地开始在对另一个人来说没那么剧烈的方式中改变事物。这可以从在你回答或行为之前感受你的真理开始。问自己，这对每个涉及的人来说公平和瘦全吗？你可以开始对别人说不或对自己说是，或者开始瘦全他们能够轻易做到的活动，去开始发生更多渐进的改变。这需要奉献去保持有意识，不落回旧的模式
Again we remind you that boundaries are there to support fair, empowering connection for everyone involved. That is always a good thing, and your inner wise one always knows where that point is. You may need to be very firm in extreme cases, or you may gently shift things slowly, but no matter how you get there, rest assured your boundaries exist for the highest good of all, because they allow you to use your energy much more consciously and to finally move out of old cycles and patterns into true forward movement. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
我们再次提醒你，界线是来支持公平、瘦全的连接的。这总是一件好事，你的内在智者总是知道那个点在哪。你可能需要在极端的情况中变得很坚定，或者你可以慢慢地温柔地转变事物，但不管你如何到达，放心，你的界线是为了一切的最高良善而存在，因为它们让你更加有意识地使用你的能量，最终离开旧周期和模式，进入真正的前进运动。

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2022年4月22日

As we close out this week’s series of messages on boundaries, we would like to discuss how to know someone has changed enough to let them back into closer proximity to you.
随着我们结束本周的界线系列，我们想要探讨如何知道别人改变得足够多来让他们返回与你的亲密
You may have had to create a firm boundary with someone if their behaviour was inappropriate and unacceptable and wasn’t changing despite your making your feelings known. If you have been in an unhealthy dance with another for a long time, suddenly becoming firm and deciding you no longer wish to continue with them can seem like a rude awakening. It can feel like shocking someone awake with a bucket of cold water when they have been in a deep sleep.
如果对方的行为是不恰当的，不可接受的，并未改变，尽管你表达了你的感受，你可能需要创造一个坚定的界线。如果你处于一个不健康的共舞很久，突然变得坚定并感觉到你不再希望与那个人共舞会看似是一个唐突的苏醒。会感觉起来像是用一桶冷水把熟睡的人浇醒
Any forced, unexpected change can throw another into what is often referred to as the dark night of the soul. Deep change often follows similar steps to the stages of mourning. And they are, in a sense, grieving the loss of the old way of being, even if that way of being was not for their highest good. Most people, when faced with this, go through the following stages:
任何强迫的、意想不到的改变会让另一个人进入通常被称为的灵魂暗夜。深刻的改变通常会紧随类似哀悼的阶段。在某种意义上，他们就是在哀悼旧的存在方式，即使那个存在方式对他们最高的良善来说没用。大多数人，当面对这些，会经历以下阶段：
Stage One: Shock/denial
第一阶段：震惊/否认
Stage Two: Emotional reaction
第二阶段：情绪反应
Stage Three: Trying to keep things the same without change
第三阶段：试图保持事物不变
Stage Four: Emotional bottom
第四阶段：情绪触底
Stage Five: Opening to change
第五阶段：向改变敞开
Stage Six: Temptation to backslide
第六阶段：被引诱去倒退
Stage Seven: True change
第七阶段：真正的改变
It is common for people who are attempting to enforce better boundaries to falter when the person in question is in any of the earlier stages, but as you can see giving in too soon would not create any kind of lasting change. It would only be agreeing to continue the same old patterning.
当处于考虑中的人处于任何前面的阶段，很正常会让他在建立更好的界线中动摇，但如你所见，太早放弃无法创造任何持久的改变。只会同意继续相同的旧模式
People do change all the time, in fact, that is exactly what the energies you are in are insisting upon. There will absolutely be times when people change for the better and become a safe person to have near to you again. But true and lasting change is a process that requires self awareness, introspection, and true and consistent action steps that reflect their authentic desire to be different.
人时刻都在改变，事实上，这就是你所处的能量在坚称的。肯定会到来人们变得更好，成为一个安全的人可以再次靠近的时间。但真正持久的改变是一个需要自我意识、自省、始终如一的过程，会反映出他们想要变得不一样的真实渴望
It is a wise human being who doesn’t rush back in but allows the other the time and space they need to evolve out of the old patterning. If the person is willing to do the work of changing, and if you are willing to give them the space they need to do that work, as well as exploring and healing what made you a willing dance partner in the old patterning, there can absolutely be an opportunity to come back together in a new, far more healthy and mutually beneficial way. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
不着急回去，而是给予另一个人时间和空间去进化出旧的模式是明智的。如果那个人愿意去做改变工作，如果你愿意给予他们空间去做那个工作，以及探索和疗愈，就完全有机会去在新的更加健康和互利的方式中再相聚。

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原文：https://trinityesoterics.com/.../daily-message-tuesday.../
译者：NickChan