为心爱的人保持空间

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为心爱的人保持空间

译注:这是人写的，不是通灵信息

One of the great challenges for empaths and all sensitive people is how to help others without burning out. As a psychiatrist, I’ve observed that my patients get most exhausted when they try too hard to fix or help their spouses, children, or friends. The art of holding space is a skill that empaths must learn. Holding space means that we are present for people we love by radiating caring, nonjudgmental, and calm energy—but we don’t try to fix them or absorb their distress.
对具有同理心和敏感的人来说其中一个巨大的挑战就是如何帮助别人而不烧伤自己。作为一名精神病医生，我发现病人们在他们太想要修复或帮助自己的配偶、孩子、朋友的时候会变得最精疲力竭。保持空间的艺术是一个具有同理心的人必须学习的技能。保持空间意味着我们通过散发关怀、不评判、平静的能量为我们所爱的人存在---但不要试图去修复他们或吸收他们的痛苦

Holding space is a loving kindness practice that you can use when you are supporting others. It’s more about “being” that “doing.” Your energy and attitude can make all the difference. Here is an excerpt to guide you from my book Thriving as an Empath: 365 Days of Self-Care for Sensitive People. The more you practice radiating this heart-centered awareness, the easier holding space will become.
保持空间是一个在你支持他人的时候可以使用的有爱的仁慈的练习。它更多是关于“存在”而不是“行事”。你的能量和态度会做出所有的不同。你越多地练习散发这个居中于心的意识，就更容易保持空间

A Holding Space Practice
保持空间的练习

When you’re with someone you care about who is going through a hard time or is expressing joy, it is a beautiful skill to hold space for them. This means that you choose to be totally present with that person. (Holding space is not something you offer everyone in need.) Your mind is still: You’re not overly involved. You’re not thinking about how to change or fix them. You’re not focused on your own emotions, which may be getting triggered. Instead, you look at them with love, listen with your heart, and hold a positive, nonjudgmental space for this person to just Be.
当你与某个关心的人在一起，而他/她正在经历一个艰难的时刻或者正在表达喜悦，去为他们保持空间是一个美妙的技能。这意味着你选择完全与那个人同在。（保持空间不是你提供给需要帮助的人的东西）。你的头脑是平静的：你不会过度牵涉其中。你不会想如何改变或修正他们。你并不专注于自己的情感，可能会被触发。而是，你伴随着爱看向他们，用心聆听，为这个人保持一个积极的、不评判的空间去只是存在

Holding space is a gift that you have to offer. I often do this for my patients and with friends. You’re creating an aura of love which extends from you to them. Never underestimate the power of holding space for someone. It can be a vehicle for deep healing.
保持空间是你可以提供的一份礼物。我经常为我的病人和朋友这么做。你在创造一个爱的光环，会从你将他们包裹。永远不要低估为别人保持空间的力量。这可以是一个深度疗愈的工具

Set your intention. I will hold a loving space for someone today. I will be completely present for them.
设置你的意图。今天我会为某个人保持有爱的空间。我会为他们完全存在

原文：https://eraoflight.com/.../the-art-of-holding-space-for.../
翻译：Nick Chan