成长成巨人

明曲

ParamahansaYogananda-成长成巨人

How do you find the right partner?
如何找到合适的伴侣？
Beloved human being,
亲爱的
first prepare for this encounter on a spiritual level. Attract the woman of your life or the man of your dreams through spiritual groundwork.
首先在精神层面为这个遇见做好准备。通过精神上的基础工作来吸引你的挚爱
What does this preliminary work consist of? First become mature yourself for a partnership – and to be mature means to free yourself from any jealousy. Jealousy is the greatest hindrance to a marriage or partnership. Work on this issue until you can be sure that it will not play a role in your partnership.
这个初步工作包含什么？首先自己要变得成熟---这意味着自由于任何的嫉妒。嫉妒是一段婚姻或关系的最大障碍。致力于它直到你可以确定它不会在你的关系中捣蛋
Thereupon ask your spiritual guidance for indications whether a life partner is granted to you in this life. Not every person has chosen a partnership. Sometimes you prefer to lead a life as a hermit than to get involved with a person in everyday life. This is what you need to find out first.
因此请求精神上的指引来向你展示这辈子是否会有一个伴侣。不是每个人都选择了一段关系。有时候你宁愿作为隐士生活而不是和另一个人一起生活。这是你需要先去弄明白的
It is also quite possible that the right time for a partnership has not yet come. This is another very common fact. With all the efforts you make, always clarify first what is right for you now.
还有就是伴侣到来的正确时机还未到来。这是另一个非常普遍的事实。伴随着你所有的努力，总是先去弄清楚现在什么对你来说是恰当的
Then feel into yourself, declare yourself to heaven and signal your readiness! Let everything come to you, do not force anything, let it happen!
然后感受内心，向天堂宣告，说你准备好了！让一切向你前来，不要强迫任何东西
Only if you can live alone with yourself, you can enter into a partnership. If you don’t get along with yourself, then you don’t get along with anybody.
只有当你能够独自过活，你就可以进入一段关系。如果你自己都无法与自己相处，你也无法与任何人相处
A partnership serves the people to work on the project life in loving togetherness.
一段关系服务人类在有爱的归属感中致力于生活项目
Do not rush!
不用匆忙
A true partnership is based on appointments from being and these appointments have to be recognized. So do not rush!
一段真正的关系基于约定，这些约定必须被认识到。所以不用匆忙
Ask yourself at this point: Can I be alone with myself or do I always need people around me?
在这个点，问问自己：我能够独自生活吗？还是我总是需要周围有人？
If you are ready for the partnership, then connect yourself mentally with the partner. Invite him into your life! When the time has come, the encounter will take place. Therefore, be patient and do not compromise! Never distract yourself with other partners, but wait!
如果你为关系做好了准备，然后精神上与伴侣连接。邀请他/她进入你的生活！当时机到来，遇见会发生。因此，保持耐心，不要勉强！不要为此分心
If the right person enters your life, then you recognize him or her by the agreed characteristics!
如果正确的人进入了你的生活，你会通过认同他/她的特性而认出他/她
It is impossible to prevent an encounter that should take place and for which a person is ready. It happens!
不可能去阻止一个应当发的遭遇，当一个人准备好，它会发生
Life with your life partner is one big party, when both people are clarified to such an extent that issues such as selfishness, envy and jealousy no longer affect them. Forgiveness also plays a decisive role in a partnership. It is the supreme discipline for the success of a marriage. If a spiritual dimension is added, life is perfect.
与你的伴侣一起生活是一个盛大的聚会，当两人的明理程度到达了自私、嫉妒这样的东西不再能影响他们的点。宽恕也在关系中扮演着一个决定性的角色。这是一段成功婚姻的最高纪律。如果一个精神维度被添加，生活是完美的
Sex and everyday life
xing和日常生活
In this way, sexuality also takes on a different significance. Sex is then not limited to the regions of the body, but it is a holistic event of spirit, soul and body. This is the unity that spiritually connected people can experience in every sexual encounter.
在这样的方式中，xing也会拥有不同的意义。它不再局限于身体层面，而是精神、灵魂、身体的一个整体事件。这是精神上相连的人能够在每一个xing相遇中体验到的联合
Even everyday life has a completely different quality. Happiness brings deep confidence – confidence in being different and in being like your partner.
即使日常生活也会有一个完全不同的品质。幸福会带来深度的信心---对变得不同和变得像伴侣一样拥有信心
No one who is confident wants to change another. Any partnership in which one wants to change the other fails. With spiritually developed people this is no longer an issue – everyone takes the other as he is!
自信的人都不会想要改变另一个人。当一个人想要改变另一个人，任何关系都会失败。伴随着精神上成熟的人，这不再是一个问题---每个人接纳彼此的所是
There is no need for interference in your partner’s life. Therefore, never marry with the intention that you can mold your partner to your liking. This always goes wrong and plunges everyone into unhappiness!
不需要去干涉对方的生活。因此，永远不要伴随着按照你的喜好塑造你的伴侣这样的意图去步入婚姻。这总是会出问题，让每个人都不快乐
Why get upset – change yourself!
为什么难过---改变自己
Mature souls enjoy being different from their partner, because this is the only way they can learn and grow themselves. Mature souls use the reflections of everyday life for their own development and they do not perceive them as a threat to their own ego. Thus, understanding and trust prevail instead of discord or strife.
成熟的灵魂喜欢和自己的伴侣是不一样的，因为这是他们学习和成长的唯一方式。成熟的灵魂使用日常生活来反思自己的发展，他们不会认为那些反思是对自己小我的一个威胁。因此，理解和信任会主导，而不是不和或吵架
Now love can occupy the space between man and woman. The ego recedes and the souls can meet each other.
现在爱可以占据男人和女人之间的空间。小我消退，灵魂可以遇见彼此
How children become giants
孩子如何成为巨人
Now children are an issue. You feel that you want to invite a soul into your life. How do you go about it?
现在孩子是一个问题。你感到你想要邀请一个灵魂进入你的生活。你如何去做？
Attract the souls! Invite souls that belong to you and fit you into your life! Make contact with the soul that wants to embody itself in you! Feel the being which should be your future child
吸引、邀请从属于你、适合你的灵魂进入你的生活！与想要在你之内体现自己的灵魂连接！感到它会是你未来的孩子
Have conversations and observe your dreams! Children choose their parents in the same way as parents choose their children – and children make themselves known to their future parents on the soul level before they are born. The most blessed foundation for the family is:
交谈并观察你的梦想！孩子会和父母选择自己的孩子一样选择自己的父母---孩子会在灵魂层面在自己诞生前先会见未来的父母。一个家庭最幸福的基础就是：
Open your souls and exude the fragrance of love like a flower – until honeybees settle on it.
像花朵一样敞开你的灵魂并散发爱的芬芳---直到蜜蜂到来
Your family will flourish and the children will grow into the giants they indicate they are from birth.
你的家庭会绽放，孩子会成长成巨人
I love you infinitely.
我无限地爱着你
PARAMAHANSA YOGANANDA

原文：https://eraoflight.com/.../paramahansa-yogananda.../
日期：2022年5月15日
传导：Jahn J Kassl
译者：NickChan