控制

明曲

天使 20180804

控制

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

我亲爱的朋友们，我们非常地爱你

We wish to be very loving with you today as we address a sensitive topic – one that if properly understood can grant you great freedom and grace, and this is the subject of “control.”

今天我们希望非常有爱地对待你，因为我们将会处理一个敏感的话题---如果恰当地理解，会给予你伟大的自由与优雅，它就是“控制”

You have a saying on earth about certain individuals on your planet – “Oh he’s a control freak! She’s a control freak!” You say it as if this is an unusual ailment, but as we see it (and we say this with love), almost every human being upon the earth is a “control freak” in one way or another.

在地球上你们关于特定的个体有着一个称呼---“哦，他是一个控制狂！她是一个控制狂！”你说得好像这是一个罕见的疾病，但在我们看来（我们伴随着爱说），几乎每个人在某种程度上都是“控制狂”

We are not saying that most of you have any conscious desire whatsoever to bend others to do your bidding! Most of you would never dream of dictating another’s choices, nor coercing them to do your will. Most of you would say, “I have no desire to control anyone else.” We believe you! However, control can show up in very subtle and self-sabotaging ways.

我们不是说大多数人都希望让他人卑躬屈膝来执行你的命令！大多数人永远不会去想命令他人做选择，或强迫他人去执行你的意愿。大多数人会说，“我不想要控制任何人。”我们相信你！无论如何，控制会在非常微妙和自我妨害的方式中出现

For example, say you want to help someone you dearly love. Suppose they are sick or engaging in unhealthy behaviors. You teach them about proper nutrition. You share information that can help them. You suggest they see healers, counselors, intuitives, etc. All of these are very loving and kind suggestions.

比如，假设你想要帮助你深爱的人。假设他们生病或从事着不健康的行为。你教导他们恰当的营养。你分享会帮助他们的信息。你建议他们去看医生、咨询、相信直觉等等。这些都是非常有爱和仁慈的建议

What do you do however, when this individual wants nothing to do with your kind offerings? What do you do when they continue to engage in behaviors that continue to hurt them, and in turn hurt you? Can you simply love them, allow them their path, and take care of your own joy? Or do you get frustrated and upset with them – angry that they won’t listen to you or accept your help?

但当这个人不想接受你仁慈的提供，你该怎么办？当他们继续从事会伤害他们的行为，反过来会伤害你，你该怎么办？你还能爱他们，让他们继续他们的道路，并照顾好自己的喜悦吗？还是你会沮丧和生气---因为他们不听你的或不接受你的帮助？

Dear ones with all love and respect, we must point out that getting frustrated with another when they won’t listen is really a symptom of being frustrated with yourself… because you can’t control them! Even if your desire is to assist someone you love dearly, you can’t force them bend to your will.

亲爱的一们，伴随着爱和尊重，我们必须指出，当他们不听你的而变得沮丧实际上是一个对自己感到沮丧的症状...因为你无法控制他们。即使你的愿望是帮助你深爱的人，你不能强迫他们屈服于你的意愿

Love offers. It doesn’t insist. Love allows. It doesn’t judge. Love is deeply honest and allows you to say, “I love you and care about you and want you to be happy and healthy but I no longer know what to tell you since you don’t like my suggestions. I pray you find another way. It hurts me to watch you hurt. I’m going to go take charge of my own joy and well being. I’ll be here if you need my assistance or suggestions. I’ll be honest about what resonates with me and what does not.”

爱提供。它不强求。爱允许。它不评判。爱是非常诚实的，会让你去说，“我爱你，我关心你，我想要你开心和健康，但我不再知道该跟你说什么，因为你不喜欢我的建议。我祈祷你会找到另一种方式。看着你受伤令我心痛。我会为自己的喜悦和福祉负起责任。如果你需要我的协助或建议我会在那。我会诚实述说什么与我共振，什么不”

Then dear ones, allow yourselves your own health well-being, and joy, whereupon your loved one may feel a bit left out and perhaps tend to their own a little more carefully!

然后，亲爱的一们，允许自己拥有健康，福祉，喜悦，虽然你心爱的人可能感到有点被冷落，也许这会令他更加细心地照顾自己

A second example of subtle control happens within your own psyche, when you want something and don’t know what to do to make it come about. You want more money and don’t know how to generate it. You want to heal a relationship and don’t know how to do so. You want to find a new job but you haven’t yet had any success. You want to solve a problem but don’t know where to turn.

第二个微妙控制的例子发生在你的心智中，当你想要什么，不知道该做什么来使它发生。你想要更多的钱，不知道如何生成它。你想要疗愈一段人际关系，不知道如何去做。你想要一份新工作，但你还未成功。你想要解决一个问题，但不知道从哪里着手

This is where most human minds start to take control! You worry. You over analyze. You search for solutions far past the heart’s true desire to do so. You are trying to control the outcome, instead of relaxing into the arms of the Divine…

这是大多数人类头脑开始控制的地方！你担忧。你过度分析。你搜寻解决方案，超越了去这么做的心之渴望。你试图控制结果，而不是栖息于神的拥抱...

Give your problems to the Creator. Relax. Enjoy your day and understand that when the time comes to act you will be guided.

把你的问题交给造物主。放松。享受你的日子，明白，当行动的时机到来，你会被指引去做

Our wish for all of you is that you would learn to notice, love, and soothe your inner control “freak.” Reassure this part of yourself. Tell them that when you can’t control another, you can love them through their lessons. Remind this part of yoruself, that when you don’t know what to do, the universe does.

我们希望你们所有人都学会留意、爱并抚慰内在的控制“狂”。安抚你的这个部分。告诉它们，当你无法控制他人，你可以爱他们来通过他们的课程。提醒你的这个部分，当你不知道该怎么办，宇宙知道

Speak to this part of yourself as you would speak to a worried child. It is simply a part of you that wants so much more for yourself or the world, yet doesn’t know how to get there.

对你的这个部分述说，好像你在跟一个担忧的孩子说话。它只是想要为你或世界得到更多东西的那部分你，但不知道如何去做

When your inner “control freak” learns to F.R.E.A.C. (Finally Release Every Attempt to Control!) you will experience immense relief! You’ll rest, knowing that you are deeply loved and guided. You’ll breathe easy, knowing the universe has your back. You’ll release yourself from being responsible for other adults, knowing that each soul must choose their path and the accompanying lessons.

当你内在的“控制狂”学会最终释放每一个控制的尝试，你会体验巨大的慰藉！你会放松，知晓你被深深地爱着和指引着。你可以松一口气，知晓宇宙支持着你。你自由于为其他的成年人负责，知晓每个灵魂必须选择自己的道路以及相应的课程

Releasing control in the situations where you really don’t have it is the secret to enjoying a life of deep, and abiding peace… no matter what the world or those around you choose.

对你无法控制的情况释放控制，这是享受一个深度生活与持久平和的秘密...无论世界或周围的人作何选择

God Bless You! We love you so very much.— The Angels

上帝保佑你！我们非常地爱你

天使

通灵：Ann Albers
翻译：Nick Chan https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/oOgIt2gomfxAYszhyXUElA